<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu yaz\u0131mda gen\u00e7li\u011fimden bug\u00fcne gelmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131m, delikanl\u0131l\u0131ktan ne anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 payla\u015faca\u011f\u0131m. Sakarya\u2019n\u0131n Hendek il\u00e7esinde do\u011fdum, Adapazar\u0131\u2019nda b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm. Lise e\u011fitimimi Adapazar\u0131\u2019nda tamamlad\u0131m. Sokaklarda oynad\u0131m, mahalle aralar\u0131nda topun pe\u015finden ko\u015ftum, kavga ettim, d\u00f6vd\u00fcm de d\u00f6v\u00fcld\u00fcm de. Ama sokakta da \u00e7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011frendim. Her \u015feyden \u00f6nce \u201cDelikanl\u0131\u201d olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendim. G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc veya g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fcz olmak \u00f6nemli de\u011fildi gen\u00e7li\u011fimizde, delikanl\u0131 olmak \u00f6nemliydi, delikanl\u0131n\u0131n cinsiyeti yoktu. S\u00f6z verdi\u011finde tutmak, yalan s\u00f6ylememek, s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn arkas\u0131nda durmakt\u0131 delikanl\u0131 olmak. Soka\u011f\u0131n da hak ve hukuku vard\u0131, yanl\u0131\u015f yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda cezas\u0131 kesilirdi, kalmad\u0131 o g\u00fcnler! G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde ise yalan ile beslenenler kesmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor bu cezay\u0131. O g\u00fcnleri hat\u0131rlad\u0131m, ne g\u00fczeldi ne huzurlu g\u00fcnlerdi. Bug\u00fcn modern toplumda delikanl\u0131 olmak, etik olmak, di\u011fer insanlar\u0131n. haklar\u0131na sayg\u0131l\u0131 olmak, adil olmak anlam\u0131nda kullan\u0131l\u0131yor, de\u011fil mi?
Ben de bu anlay\u0131\u015fla b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcld\u00fcm. Lise e\u011fitimimden sonra Adapazar\u0131\u2019ndan \u00fcniversite e\u011fitimim i\u00e7in ayr\u0131ld\u0131m. \u00d6nce Hacettepe \u00dcniversitesi, Ankara, daha sonra Bo\u011fazi\u00e7i \u00dcniversitesi, \u0130stanbul sonra da \u0130stanbul \u00fcniversitesinde y\u0131llar\u0131m\u0131 ge\u00e7irdim, binlerce \u00f6\u011frenci, y\u00fczlerce akademisyen ge\u00e7ti hayat\u0131mdan. \u00c7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011frendim \u00e7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011frettim. Sadece \u00fcniversitede olmak veya \u00fcniversiteye kapanman\u0131n do\u011fru olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm, dernek ve vak\u0131flarda g\u00f6rev ald\u0131m, g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc bir \u00e7ok projelerde aktif olarak \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Bulundu\u011fum topluluklarda \u00e7ok \u015fey g\u00f6rd\u00fcm, yurt i\u00e7i ve yurt d\u0131\u015f\u0131 deneyimler kazand\u0131m.
\u0130nsanlar\u0131 izlerken avc\u0131 toplumdan gelmenin kal\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsunuz, gizlenmi\u015f de olsa kendini koruma, ya\u015fatma ve hakim olma duygular\u0131n\u0131 sezinliyorsunuz. Belki de kapitalist sistemin, rekabet\u00e7i sistemin yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feylerdi bunlar. Oysa do\u011fru olan, hizmet yar\u0131\u015f\u0131yd\u0131, de\u011ferli insan olabilmekti, yap\u0131lanlar \u00fczerine bir \u015feyler koyabilmekti, kazan\u0131lanlar\u0131 payla\u015fabilmekti. \u0130nsanl\u0131k, y\u0131llarca evrimle\u015fmi\u015f, yontulmu\u015f olsa da \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz \u00e7\u0131kabiliyor ans\u0131z\u0131n. Ba\u015faramad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, yenildi\u011finizde kontrol edemiyorsan\u0131z duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsak her zaman \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, han\u00e7eri sapl\u0131yorsan\u0131z rakip g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz ki\u015filere, ezip ge\u00e7mek istiyorsan\u0131z, i\u00e7inizde tutam\u0131yorsan\u0131z bast\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, ihtiraslar\u0131n\u0131z ile bilin\u00e7li yada bilin\u00e7siz sald\u0131r\u0131yorsan\u0131z etraf\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015filere, biliniz ki delikanl\u0131l\u0131ktan sap\u0131yorsunuz.
Bu tip insanlar\u0131n biri de birka\u00e7\u0131 da yetiyor, onlar\u0131n han\u00e7erinden, zararlar\u0131ndan korunman\u0131z i\u00e7in bu ortamlardan uzakla\u015fman\u0131z gerekiyor. Bu ortamlar\u0131 toplumun her kesiminde g\u00f6rmeniz m\u00fcmk\u00fcn belki e\u011fitim seviyesi yada toplum kalitesi art\u0131k\u00e7a bu duygular maskelenmi\u015f, gizlenmi\u015f olabiliyor ama her nerede olursa olsun zarar veriyor insana topluma. Bu \u00e7\u0131karc\u0131 insanlar\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 da toplumlar\u0131 g\u00fcvensizli\u011fe yanl\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa itiyor, hatta toplumsal geli\u015fmeyi de frenliyor. Kanaatimce \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm; bireysel olarak uzakla\u015fmakt\u0131r bu insanlardan ama toplumu ve gelece\u011fi kurtarmak ise ama\u00e7 tepki verebilmektir, sessiz kalmamakt\u0131r, duyarl\u0131 ve sorumlu olabilmektir, han\u00e7erle olmasa da birliktelikle, demokratik olarak sava\u015fmakt\u0131r, bu insanlar\u0131 uzakla\u015ft\u0131rmakt\u0131r, \u00e7irkin hayallerine ve hedeflerine ula\u015ft\u0131rmamakt\u0131r. Toplumun hangi kesiminde olurlarsa olsunlar delikanl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmeliler bu f\u0131rsat\u00e7\u0131 insanlar. Delikanl\u0131l\u0131k, ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p konu\u015fabilmektir, samimi ve \u015feffaf olabilmektir. Haydi delikanl\u0131lar ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p konu\u015fun, duru\u015funuzu g\u00f6sterin, dersinizi verin bu topluma zarar verenlere, sadece kendini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnenlere. E\u011fitim seviyesindeki farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131 azaltmak ve de\u011ferli insanlar\u0131n yeti\u015fmesi \u00e7ok zaman alabilir ancak gen\u00e7li\u011fimizdeki tabiriyle delikanl\u0131l\u0131k yada etik anlay\u0131\u015f ve toplumsal sorumluluk k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fc olu\u015fturmak \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu ve \u00f6ncelik ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 unutmay\u0131n\u0131z!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bu yaz\u0131mda gen\u00e7li\u011fimden bug\u00fcne gelmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131m, delikanl\u0131l\u0131ktan ne anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 payla\u015faca\u011f\u0131m. Sakarya\u2019n\u0131n Hendek il\u00e7esinde do\u011fdum, Adapazar\u0131\u2019nda b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm. Lise e\u011fitimimi Adapazar\u0131\u2019nda tamamlad\u0131m. Sokaklarda oynad\u0131m, mahalle aralar\u0131nda topun pe\u015finden ko\u015ftum, kavga ettim, d\u00f6vd\u00fcm de d\u00f6v\u00fcld\u00fcm de. Ama sokakta da \u00e7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011frendim. Her \u015feyden \u00f6nce \u201cDelikanl\u0131\u201d olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendim. G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc veya g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fcz olmak \u00f6nemli de\u011fildi gen\u00e7li\u011fimizde, delikanl\u0131 olmak \u00f6nemliydi, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"saved_in_kubio":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-282","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-sosyal"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erdalbalaban.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/282","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erdalbalaban.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erdalbalaban.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erdalbalaban.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erdalbalaban.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=282"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.erdalbalaban.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/282\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":337,"href":"https:\/\/www.erdalbalaban.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/282\/revisions\/337"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.erdalbalaban.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=282"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erdalbalaban.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=282"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.erdalbalaban.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=282"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}